Infidelity
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Covert and undercover surveillance (marital surveillance, child custody cases, benefit fraud, employee theft, corporate espionage, care home abuse, and more)
Infidelity investigations to document a cheating spouse or partnerWe have licensed Investigators in Manawatu, Masterton and Wellington.
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Suspect your partner or spouse is cheating?
Suspecting a partner of cheating is very painful.
Cheaters often lie about other things too, which can lead to fights over assets and child custody later.
Suspicions may come from an event, a lie, or changes in behaviour. Gut feelings often mean something is off — it’s a survival skill. In most cases, strong suspicions turn out to be true when checked properly.
To confirm your doubts and decide what to do next, you’ll need a focused investigation.What Not To Do
Before we talk about what you should do about a cheating partner, let’s talk about what you shouldn’t do.
When you become suspicious, your initial response is usually to lash out or confront your partner and accuse them of wrongdoing. From a strategic perspective, this is a mistake. When emotions are involved, people only think one or two steps ahead and don’t consider the longer term implications of their actions. If you confront your partner, they will know that you are suspicious so it will be harder to prove infidelity. When confronted, your partner will change their behaviour and will become more wary of being caught.
If your partner is doing something wrong, whether it involves cheating or something else, we want that person to feel comfortable to continue that behaviour so you can get the proof you need quickly and make a decision about your future.
Another mistake people make is to try to investigate their partner themselves. If you get caught, you will do just as much damage to your investigation as if you had confronted your partner.
Some people might say that it’s best to be open and honest with your partner if you have concerns about faithfulness. The problem with this approach is that cheaters lie. They have already proven they are willing to act in a deceitful way by engaging in this behaviour in the first place and many unfaithful people will lie on and on and on. We are aware of cases where these lies last for many years.
If you investigate and for some reason you don’t get definitive answers to your questions, there’s always the opportunity to discuss the matter with your partner later but, from a strategic point of view, it’s not wise to start with a discussion. Also, don’t use spyware or tracking devices. These are in almost all cases illegal.
Evidence
If you’re reading this, you probably want proof. While evidence of infidelity isn’t used in New Zealand courts, it can be crucial for your peace of mind. Knowing who your partner is involved with may also matter
Surveillance
Surveillance is a highly effective investigation method, especially for suspected cheating. An investigator follows and watches a person at an arranged time, discreetly recording and noting what they see. This can be done on foot, by car, boat, or anywhere with enough notice.
Good planning and giving the investigator all relevant details improve the chances of a clear result. If you have any suspicion, contact an investigator quickly — you may get only one chance to gather proof.
Contacting an investigator to discuss options is free. If you don’t have a specific lead, some times are more likely to reveal cheating: when one partner is out of town or at work events, people often lower their guard.
Summary
Most of the time, an investigation is the turning point that changes a relationship. Even if you don’t find clear proof of cheating, surveillance often reveals facts that help you understand what’s happening.
Often the issue isn’t cheating but gambling, drug or alcohol problems. Whatever it is, you deserve to know. Without diagnosing the problem, you can’t fix it.
Don’t confront your partner before you have evidence. And even after getting proof, don’t rush to confront them — there may be other issues to sort first, like hidden assets, income or false abuse claims. It’s usually best to gather evidence on these matters before separating.
Investigators can also help with related issues: child custody, property settlements, finding hidden assets, locating children, detecting stalking, and proving income for child support.